I have some time. Matt and I are both home, sick..Lucy is doing a little better. The fever is down to a small one with no medication and her breathing is ok so far. I heard that Quinn sprouted a tooth yesterday, but I didn't get to see it. I gazed at the twins through the car window, trying to catch a glimpse of the Easter outfits I missed yesterday..I only saw the hats..and no tooth. I often speak of parenting as guilt management.. like, my decisions are often influenced by how guilty I will feel if I don't do something. Booster seats are a good example of this. I came from the era of no seat belts and certainly no boosters. I remember lying across the floor boards, trying to balance my hips bones across the bump that divided the backseat floor, it was rather hot and stinky. So, I can definitely relate to the argument that the chances of something happening are pretty slim. Nevertheless what forces me to grab the booster 98% of the time, boils down to guilt. How bad would I feel if something did happen and my kids were not properly restrained? I can't even imagine. I'm bringing this up to prove I'm fairly used to parent guilt. I never knew I would have to balance parent guilt and aunt guilt. It is really pretty bad. So, now I feel bad I exposed the babies to the flu. I missed their first Easter and Quinn's tooth. I think I suck as an aunt. I promise I'll listen more closely to the parent voice and not send my kids over sick. I promise I'll be at the next major family event. I promise I will not miss Aubrey's tooth.
3 comments:
Aunt Carrie.... you are the best aunt ever ! Feeling guilty may be "normal for a mom" but it is highly overrated. Save your self years of useless guilt and try to focus on all the things you do RIGHT! Life is way to short sweetie to dwell on such things. Learn a life lesson and move on. I think you are awesome and I'm sure Aubrey and Quinn will forgive and understand you missing their first Easter outfits and tooth.
Love,
Shelia
I hope you all get better soon! Did the Vicks work?
Carrie,
We missed the 3 of you at Easter.
You are one of the best Mom & Aunt
that I know. Get rid of the guilt & give an extra kiss to everyone when you feel better.
Take Care!!!!
Love,
Aunt Kim
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